How to deal with breakup of relationship

Everyone of us get hurt one way or another in a relationship with the person you love.I want to tell you how to deal with it.


Breakup

Everyone of us has experienced happiness, joy and love while being in love with a person. While in love you feel the world is very beautiful. You feel as if you could fly. It makes your world go round. You maybe someone to the world but you will be the world for that person.

You know always that everything is impermanent. It cannot last forever. The relationship with the person you love is gone suddenly. It is no more there. You are left by that person. You can't believe that it is happening to you.

This has happened to me one year back. I didn't know what to do. I wanted to cry but tears couldn't fall easily.I could feel a lump in my chest. My heart was crying. I couldn't tell my mom or sisters as I couldn't wanted them to feel pain.

When we are hurt, we don't feel like living. Our world seems hollow. We feel as everything has come to an end.


How did I deal with breakup?

I was browsing for help here and there. I was telling about my breakup to my friends as I require their support and help.

While I was on official tour to India, I stumbled accross a second hand book called " Starting over for Mars and Venus" by Mr. John Gray. He has written about how to heal our heart and move on. Our heart is broken and it needs to healed and become strong once again before finding love once again. If we don't let our heart get healed, we will be on rebound. It won't be good for all of us.I have learnt some simple exercises for healing our heart. They are given below:
Take a paper and a pencil and write down the following emotions:
1. Anger: for example:
I am angry because you left me for another person. Here, you can write about your anger about the breakup.
2. Sorrow: I feel very sad because you left me. I feel so scared. Please write your sorrow.
3. Fear: I feel scared that I won't be able find another person like you again.
4.Sadness: I feel sad that you are no there in my life.
You can explore all the emotions and write it down.
It helps alot.

I have always found that doing exercise like walking, jogging, yoga will help you alot in bringing control in your life. We become so dependent on that person. Exercise is the one of the ways to restore your independance.

I think we should remember about the good side of the relationship although tears might drop down your face but those are healing tears.

If you feel happy to remember that person, you are ready to move into a new relationship. That means your heart is healed and you can move on to find new love. I wish you all the best.

Finding love once again

Falling in love

Everybody falls in love and as the time passes, the passion and love is not there. It is all gone. Relationship with the person whom you love is gone. What remains is sadness, loneliness and tears.You think it is end of your life. This article will tell you about finding love once again and be happy for the rest of your life.


Losing love

You are so happy when you meet a person of your dreams. Everything about the person is good. You talk to him for hours and hours at night. You hang out for a candle lit dinner and movie with him. The world seems so beautiful. You believe it will last forever.
But nothing lasts forever. Everything is impermanent in this world. As time passes, the passion and love is gone. You are on verge of breaking up as he is in love with another girl.That is the end of the relationship. One day, he tells you that the relationship is over. He wants a break up.
You couldn't believe the relationship is gone and the guy leaves you. You find yourself in tears. You beg him for one more chance. He doesn't give a second thought and leaves you alone. The first two days and nights are horrible for you. You wonder how you will survive through whole night. You soak your pillows with tears. You tend to fall asleep anyhow.

Next day, you wake up and you come to realize that he is no more with you.


Finding love once again

You also feel scared and afraid that you won't find love once again. I am sure you will find love once again. You tend to lose someone when you are destined to find someone who will love you more than you love yourself once again. To meet and recognize that person you have to heal your heart and move on. Please refer my article regarding how to deal with break up. After healing your heart, you will be able to meet your soul mate.

Finding love once again is the greatest gift you can give yourself and to the world. If you carry that pain, your family and friends will also be feeling pain and suffering.


I wish you all the best and I am sure you will find love once again.